The third week of the Kindness Challenge, created by Niki of The Richness of a Simple Life, is about Self-Acceptance. It’s about accepting ourselves for who we are:
Week 3 Theme | Self-Acceptance
You’ve made it to the final week of self-kindness! I think self-acceptance is the perfect way to round up the three weeks of focusing on self-kindness. We’ve been working on cultivating the relationship we have with ourselves by practicing self-love, then we added self-compassion, and now we’ll focus on accepting ourselves for who we are.
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.
I think this quote sums up what self-acceptance is about. I believe self-acceptance is releasing the idea that you should be different in some way. Imagine you’re constantly trying to swim upstream, it takes a lot of effort and it’s exhausting! Self-acceptance is about connecting with yourself so that you go with the flow of who you are. It’s about being in alignment with ourselves. Sounds easy enough, but how many times do you second guess yourself, want to change something about yourself, or try to live up to the idea of who you and others think you should be?
By embracing who you are, you’re able to make choices….
Read more about this week’s challenge, including a useful exercise, HERE
For me, self-acceptance, was the hardest goal to achieve and sometimes I still struggle with this. I believe it all comes down to:
Being human equals being different, therefore each of us is unique. Trusting your own Inner-Child, Inner-Voice, Gut-feeling, Instinct, Soul or whatever name you want to give it is not easy due to the fact, that from the day we are born, we are influenced by others around us and that will be the case until the day we die.
That doesn’t have to be an issue when you are surrounded by people who honestly care for you and you are in balance. It will be an issue, if you don’t have enough self-confidence, are out of balance and ignore your own body. Your body literally informs you the moment you go against your own soul. A headache, trouble sleeping, restless and/or tired all the time, lack of appetite or craving for food, etc.? When medical healthy; start focussing at that voice your hear, which you probably dismissed as annoying 😉
That uncomfortable feeling you get in the presence of another person, or those hairs in your neck rising in a certain situation? Your body is warning you!
However, even if you do recognize the signals, listening to these is easier said than done. I know, I KNOW! In order to that, you have to let go.
Let go of wanting to perfect. Brene Brown and other wise people have shared their wisdom with us for many years. There is no such thing as being perfect. Nothing and nobody is perfect! I always say; we need both the positive as the negative. Without the negative, how would we even know about the positive 😉
Me personally, still today, I find myself regularly thinking ‘what would they think?’ and ‘am I doing it correctly?’ I started to ask myself the question ‘how do you feel yourself about X ?’ That can be a person, a situation or task. In addition reminding myself you can’t always change or control X. There is nothing wrong with verifying your opinion, feeling, idea, thoughts, actions with others, but balance is also key here. For me, it’s mostly about trusting my own capabilities and knowing I am not crazy.
For me this week has been a struggle with not getting nearly as much done as I’d intended. Dialing into compassion allows me to recognize that I really need to honor my unique creative pattern – I have a very organic flow of energy that follows rhythms that are not connected to the number of things on my to-do list. And I recognize that I will always, always, always have a billion more ideas of things that excite me, pique my curiosity and engender delight than I can possibly get to in the course of a week. Or a year. Or a lifetime. I have to face the fact that I’ll have to carry some of that list of explorations into my next incarnation.
Although I am not sure if I will re-incarnate again; I too have to accept I won’t be able to do all I would like to do on a day, in a week, in my lifetime.
Does that mean I have to let go all my dreams? Not at all! By being a bit more realistic about it, it is easier to prioritize and make more thoughtful choices.
Self-love, Self-Compassion, Self-Acceptance… Important to be able to be happy with and about yourself:
Happiness is when what we say and what we think and what we do are in harmony. Ghandi